I have a friend who told me she doesn't like the Proverbs 31 woman. She said that it's an ideal for womanhood that is too lofty to attain.
I tend to agree to a point. After all she was busy from dawn to dusk. She managed her household, she mananged a business. She seemed to do it all.
And, it never says anything about her complaining, feeling unappreciated, or getting tired.
But, did she?
I guess I should explain what has caused me to wonder these things. You see, we seem to go through cycles of busy-ness here at our home. My husband has many projects, interests, & responsibilities in addition to his full-time job. In addition, he's the type of man who needs to keep moving & keep busy. (Whereas I'm the type the craves and relishes downtime.)
We are going through a cycle of busy again. Or, I should say my husband is busy. For the last couple weeks we'll see him briefly at dinner-time and then he's off again to work on whatever he needs to accomplish that evening.
That pretty much leaves me alone with the children. All. Day. Long. From early in the morning until they go to bed.
And, I'm tired. I'm worn out. I'm at my wit's end most days. I don't have a lot of perky, creative mommy tricks up my sleeve anymore. And, if I did, I'd be too tired to implement them.
And, the children always seems to sense when Momma's run down and Daddy's not home. It becomes their opportunity to test and test and test.
Which brings me back to the Proverbs 31 woman. We know she had children. Was she completely adept at handling every situation that even if her husband was not home she still ran that tight ship?
As a wife, I want to be a helpmate to my husband. When he comes home to a grouchy, frustrated wife and rowdy kids, I feel like I'm failing. And, I feel like I should be able to do it. (After all there are plenty of single moms and military wives who have no choice but to do it.) And, how do I ask my husband to take on less? I feel like again I'm failing as a helpmate if I ask him to do that.
I know every marriage, every personality is different, but what do you do to keep your sanity when life seems so busy? I think I've asked this before in a post, but here I am again. So, I'd love to hear your thoughts.
(I will say that I have learned I need to get out of my house for at least a little bit here and there. I really do tend to be more of a homebody, but sometimes I still need to escape the house...even just to go outside and gain a fresh perspective.)
P.S. - After I posted this I found this image on someone else's blog. I'm trying to keep this in mind today....