Well, we're back from the beach...and we truly had a wonderful time. I had planned to have an upbeat, fun post with lots of pictures for my first post after returning from vacation. And, I will indeed be working on such a post.
But, tonight, my heart is heavy. I spoke with a dear friend on the phone. And, she and her husband are headed to divorce. I knew they were struggling but I didn't know exactly how much.
My husband and I have known them since they were expecting their first child who is just about the same age as our second child. We have watched each other's families grow. And, now I am watching their family come apart.
I'm so sad, perplexed, confused. Another marriage crumbling. And, it seems that I know of so many marriages that have ended or that are struggling.
I'm wrestling with so many questions. How do I pray? If I pray in a certain way will it make more difference? (I know. I know. God hears. He knows. I don't need elaborate words...and I don't have them now anyway.) What do I say to this couple? Do I do more than listen? Do I encourage them to continue to fight for their marriage? Will it matter if I do? It seems that when it gets to the point where people decide on divorce they feel like there's no turning back.
The words & music to 'Slow Fade' by Casting Crowns keeps going through my mind.
I am praying tonight for healing, for reconciliation, for wisdom.
Thinking of you and sending up prayers for your friend.
ReplyDeleteKaren, I hear your heart. My divorce is the worst choice I have ever made. People convince themselves that the children will be better off...really?? I believe they need to grow up and think about those little lives; they are completely dependent on mom and dad, and trust their parents for a secure home. Fortunately my children have learned well from my mistakes and are gracious to me and him.
ReplyDeletefirst- Barb- love your honesty- so many women could learn from you- may God bless you and use your testimony for His will.
ReplyDeleteKaren- I hear you and know the attack we are under. So many things I have heard lately about people I would never expect to hear the word divorce from.
So many within my own church.
I pray.
I hug my husband a little tighter and pray for continued strength within my own marriage and I pray for others, but if anyone asks me, I say, "God does not want divorce!"
A great book is Debi Pearl's Created to be His Help Meet.
I am praying for you Karen.
Remember God can do anything, even for your friend.
Karen. I will be praying for you and your friend. I've seen divorce, and it is a hard road. I've seen the ramifications on the children. I'm so sorry.
ReplyDeleteThat song runs through my head often. It's so easy to fade -- I know I struggle with it, and some mornings wake up and think, "when did I get here?"
Glad the "letting go of this" post blessed you. I'm constantly working to find all those "this" moments in my life.
Have a blessed day. You are in my prayers.
Rachel
You are such a sweet and caring person, Karen. I'm afraid I can't give you any advice because my parents are going through the same thing right now and I too have no clue what to do for them except pray. Thank you so much for this post though as I am enjoying all the advice being given. God Bless!
ReplyDeleteI feel your pain on this one....a very dear friend of mine who was married for 10 years is going through the same thing, as is someone from my own family! I never would have seen it coming from either of these couples....and they're both christian families! I will continue to pray for strength and wisdom for you as you seek to reach out to your friends.
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